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I read an article last night that was very eye opening for me, & I'm sure will be for other people as well. I am going to copy & paste the article below, It was SO good. See that photo up there? That's my sweet little London, who has her moments at times when its definitely not convenient. Us moms get judged so much when out in the real world with kids. When your child is polite, & kind, you get told what a great job you are doing & how sweet your child is. But when your having an off day, not because of you, but because of your childs emotions, you get the opposite. You get people staring at you, watching you with an annoyed look on their face, & its pretty clear what they are thinking. Not the best feeling. But its not our fault, nor is it a reflection of our parenting, so important to remember.

This article came at the perfect moment for me, puts everything back in perspective.

Lets be honest, Its hard to not let all the judging glares of total strangers get to you, bring you down, & make you feel itty bitty. But lets remember to put things in perspective when we get these "glares"....These people are strangers, they know nothing about your parenting, or about you.

You child is the one that matters, not them.

Ok, time to read the article, its one of the best I've read. I highlighted my favorite parts, even though the whole thing was spot on.

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" Young kids don't always pick the best times to have emotional meltdowns.

Just ask any parent.

Grocery stores, malls, and restaurants (or any place with lots of people around) in particular seem to bring out the worst in our little ones, prompting explosive tantrums that can make even the most stoic parent turn red-faced with embarrassment.

But why be embarrassed? It's just kids being kids, after all.

Actor Justin Baldoni recently shared a poignant photo with his own daughter and the big lesson he learned from his dad about such moments.

Baldoni, shared a photo his wife, Emily, took while the family was shopping at the local Whole Foods.

In it, Baldoni, along with his father, stares down at his daughter, Maiya. She's crying and/or wailing on the floor. Who knows about what. Her body is twisted into classic tantrum pose.

The two men look calm. Almost amused, but not in a mocking way.

They certainly are not embarrassed despite a horde of people around them in the store.

"My dad always let me feel what I needed to feel, even if it was in public and embarrassing," he wrote.

The post continued:

"I don't remember him ever saying 'You're embarrassing me!' or 'Dont cry!' It wasn't until recently that I realized how paramount that was for my own emotional development.

Our children are learning and processing so much information and they don't know what to do with all of these new feelings that come up. I try to remember to make sure my daughter knows it's OK that she feels deeply. It's not embarrassing to me when she throw tantrums in the grocery store, or screams on a plane.

→I'm her dad (mom)…not yours. ←

Let's not be embarrassed for our children. It doesn't reflect on you. In fact.. we should probably be a little more kind and patient with ourselves too. If we got out everything we were feeling and allowed ourselves to throw tantrums and cry when we felt the need to then maybe we'd could also let ourselves feel more joy and happiness. And that is something this world could definitely use a little more of."

The photo, which Baldoni calls one of his favorites ever, shows the advice in action.

There's a lot of pressure out there on both men and women to be the perfect parents at all times.

But being the perfect parent doesn't mean your kid never gets angry or frustrated or confused. As Baldoni writes, toddlers are really just beginning to learn and explore the world's boundaries. There's naturally going to be a lot of swirling emotions as they encounter things and situations they can't understand.

What's important is we don't teach them to hide those feelings or push them down for fear of ridicule — that kind of emotion-management can come back to haunt us as adults. Working through our feelings, or just having a good cry right there in the middle of the grocery store, is an important skill to learn.

→→→The emotional health of our children is certainly worth a few weird stares from people we'll never seen again.←←←

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Hi Friends, I have some exciting news!

I have officially become a consultant for beautycounter.

Not really sure how to start this blog post. But here it goes!

BEAUTYCOUNTER is a safe skincare line.

It really got my attention when I saw it had a kids line.
My kids are always my first priority.

I was introduced to this line by a friend.

I was skeptical at first because there is SO MUCH stuff out there today, it can be overwhelming trying to figure out what is truly good for us. After doing my own research & learning a lot from Lindsay & even more info via facebook events by her & by beautycounter I discovered this is the real deal. Read about it for yourself, the facts don't lie.

I am by no means a sales person, actually the thought of selling anything scares me. I am not comfortable pushing products on people. So, I wont be doing that, but I will be explaining why I love this line, & why I think you will too. Its so nice to learn & see that all the ingredients that goes into each & every one of these bottles are safe for our skin.
That is everything.

I am hoping that in me sharing my love for this line & being a consultant you can learn about it through me & maybe love it too. You can visit my personal BeautyCounter page & shop the stuff you might be interested in & I can send you samples of some kids products!

There's so many different "business opportunities" for stay at home moms.

But NONE of them have interested me like this has. I wasn't looking to even get started in a business, or become a consultant, but this line made me excited about safe products for my girls, so I went for it. Cause why not? I wouldn't jump into something I didn't believe in, nor write a blog posting about it alone. I truly believe in this line, what it stands for & it's a great feeling to know that when you read the "ingredients" on any of these product bottles, you'll never see a bunch of junk that you can't even pronounce.

It's all natural & all SAFE.

Did you know The United States has not passed a major federal law to regulate the safety of ingredients used in personal care products since 1938. Wow.

I for 1 am not ok putting products on my kids that have harmful hidden ingredients in them. My kids deserve better, & it starts with me.

The kids line is what really drew me in. I am a stay at home mom, I live & breath for my kids. I would do anything to keep them safe.I have been looking for the "perfect" kids line that I felt good about, & this is it. Your kids use what you buy, you are your children's voice.

The sunscreen line is also SAFE, CLEAN INGREDIENTS & EFFECTIVE. You can't say that for about 80% of the sunscreens on the shelf at your local store.

Did you know 1 in 8 women gets diagnosed with breast cancer?

40 years ago, it was 1 in 20.

Also since 1975 children's cancer has increased by 20%.

My passion with this line is about the kids products.

Our kids skin deserves the best. I had no idea I was washing my kids with harmful products. We just assume that there can't possibly be harmful & cancer causing ingredients in our children's products, this is America after all, but there is. I am not saying that using a different brand than this is going to cause some sort of disease. But, when you do that day in & day out, every morning & every night & when the ingredients aren't pure, thats a risk I am not willing to take.Especially on my children.

You can't change what you do not know. I don't think any of us would willingly put harmful products onto our children's skin. We are just uninformed.

I used "gentle BABY soap" that I thought was safe, yet if you read the ingredients on the bottle you'll see it's not safe. What is packed into the bottle we "trust" is garbage.

It's not ok with me.

THIS SITE is so helpful. You can search any product that you are not sure about, & it will tell you how hazardous it is. Beauty counter will never get over a 3!!
every product is rated 1-10. 1 being the best, 10 being the worst.

Summer & London deserve to have good products put into there perfect little sensitive skin. products that I feel safe letting sit on their skin & not worry about the harm it could be causing.

Your kids deserve it too.